First, because most straight women don’t feel sexual toward gay men, the relationship doesn’t carry the threat of sexual tension.
The relationship allows for a safe space in which both parties can let their guards down, be themselves, and share their feelings openly.
When it comes to the sexuality of young straight and gay men - meaning, how frequently they think about sex, want it, or feel impatient to get to the actual sex part - there are undoubtedly similarities.
When a straight woman hangs out with a gay man, she begins to put the puzzle together that men, in general, treat sex differently than women do.
Second, straight women love gay men because closeness with gay men provides a window into how the minds of men work, something that women want to know as they navigate dating waters with their straight male peers.
Though there are, of course, differences between straight and gay men, gay men are nevertheless men who share many of the same characteristics and motivations with straight men.
I was the tall, dorky, uncoordinated guy who no one seemed interested in so it was easy for me to "infiltrate" the world of women without the sexual overtones.
So I got to know women on a completely different level, I got to know their needs emotionally and what not. I sort of grew into my body and became more "masculine" I guess is the term I'll use.
The group of women I’m referring to are often called ‘fag hags,’ a term that manages to be derogatory toward two groups: women and gay men.
The term 'fag hag' refers to a woman, usually in her 20s or 30s, who loves hitting the gay bars with her gay male friends on a Saturday night on the town.
I tried to be both emotionally supportive and masculine, sexy, sexual. In fact I'm 34 now and am dating again and nothing has changed.