According to Dating, what my friends (and the girl) were referring to is ‘casual dating’ and can be defined as ‘an interaction between two people who are looking to get to know one another better, without commitments or promises.’ It should be noted that casual dating can, and often does, include sex.
Taking it one step further, it would appear that across the water, UK entrepreneur Thomas Thurlow has tapped into the youth of today’s preference for all things ‘casual’ with the release of ‘Shag Uni.com’.
It's a tough balancing act but it seems to be a universal trend. A: There's 'casual dating' and then a mysterious in-between phase I like to call the "Not Exactly Casual Anymore" stage. It's the stage when an allegedly 'casual' couple hints at, or blatantly talks about, spending tons of time together, planning trips, or what color eyes their kids will have.
Despite my best efforts, I am what most people would call a "serial casual dater." I don't want to do it, but that's how it always ends up, no matter how serious things seem to get. Most people in this cool but uncertain stage spend a good bit of time doing two things: 1) analyzing the relationship, and 2) fielding questions from friends, family, etc.
I don't know how to get past this stage of dating without appearing like I'm dying to get married. (Not Exactly Casual Anymore) stage has the makings of a serious relationship but it's tricky and the slightest misstep can plant you permanently in Casualville, or worse yet, Singleville.
It’s a shame, but unless I feel that the girl referred to at the start of this article is interested in offering something more tangible, or at the very least clarifies what she means by ‘go with the wind’, the only arrangement I will be agreeing to will be friends – minus the benefits.
Christine Allen is currently in her second year of a Springboard course for the unemployed in DCU.
She has written in recent years on LGBT topics for the youth website Spun and Gay Community News, and is currently Opinions Editor of The College View.
Q: Have you ever noticed that you can be dating someone for many months, but the relationship is still referred to as "casual"? people are often profoundly in love but if they don't utter the words, the relationship stays put (or goes the way of the dodo) and nobody has to make big decisions.
However, before I made any decision on the matter, a friend’s advice stopped me in my tracks.
“Maybe im just a cynic, but that seems like more than what most are offering.
Set up in 2012 and boasting 2,000 new student subscriptions each day, the site advertises itself as ‘a space for students to get laid on any night of the week’ without the ‘strings attached with dating.’ Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely not a prude, but is keeping it casual really the healthiest option?