Don’t look for someone to solve your problems like financial security or low self esteem.
The reason I suggest this is that the biggest mistake people make is looking for someone to “complete them”.
From the online dating experiences of myself, friends and my new husband, I have come up with some online dating guidelines that I’d like to share.
First, this is the most important step that no one ever tells you about – work on yourself first before you look for a soul mate online or anywhere else for that matter.
I am also far less critical of other people, including men. 3) You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood.
So many disappointments, self-blame, and broken hearts. Since becoming a single mother I have found that I am so much less judgmental of myself. 1) you became a parent, which will blow your mind, heart and life in incredible ways, and 2) you’ve found yourself single after a serious longterm relationship.
Unfortunately, in my experience men lied about their height and age; in my husband’s experience women lied about their body description and age. Then ask some honest, trustworthy friends to review what you’ve written as well as give you feedback about the type of person they would want you to meet.
It’s often interesting to get other people’s perspectives. Again I stress “recent” because my husband had a few awkward dates where the woman was actually 15 years older in person than her picture.
Thankfully I did have one single friend my age that had never been married, had no kids, had been using for quite awhile and was ready, willing and able to teach me about dating in the 21 century.
At first I was leery but quickly learned that online dating afforded me the opportunity to pre-screen my potential dates in the comfort of my home, without having to hire a babysitter and in my pajamas….win/win/win.
I was way past the crazy social things I did in my early 20’s – past the point of hanging out in clubs, winning burping contests at the Boardy Barn in the Hamptons and going into the city for a wild party until 5 am.