If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
If it’s “to get to know someone”, you’ll probably seem interview-ish. People like being around fun, low-pressure people with no expectations.
Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.
Here are the most common questions and my answers to each.
If you have a question about moving from casual dating to a serious relationship that I didn’t answer, leave a comment below the article and I’ll get back to you within a couple days.
Q: I’ve been dating this person for months, and when I ask if we’re a serious couple or not, the subject gets changed or I get ignored altogether. One, they’re interested but not good at communicating or are feeling pressured and don’t like it.
Other times you really like someone and it doesn’t work out, and you’ve probably wondered if there was anything you could’ve done differently.
Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.
Sure, acting unavailable might work at the casual dating stage, but what happens after that? Learn an instrument, a language, or take dancing lessons. 2) Set Boundaries Why would someone commit to you if they’re getting everything they want without the commitment?
How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.
Meeting Friends Meeting each other’s social group is a big step.
If you make it past the gauntlet of scrutiny from their friends, things are well on their way.
Whatever your answer is, that’s the main cause of your behaviour.