Use a mix of short, information-based texts and lengthier phone calls to move the relationship forward, suggests Deborrah Cooper, a relationship advice columnist, in “10 Rules for Texting and Dating” on Your
Love Is notes that boundaries are an important part of a healthy relationship.
Although I appreciate them thinking about me in the middle of the day, if we have gone out on several dates, at what point is it appropriate to expect a 5 minute phone call a few times a week?
Is it too early in the dating process for phone contact? I think it should be used exclusively for only a handful of things: Letting someone know that you’re lost or running late. But anyone who’s ever used it knows how conversations can easily take a wrong turn.
Understand this about men: they will usually do the least that they can to maintain their relationship. But here’s the real problem: there are women everywhere who are complete suckers for this crap.
So if he can text you at 11pm on Friday night after a week of silence and charm you with something like: “UR 2 hott! Maybe it’s a low self esteem thing, but as long as some desperate girl lets him get away with it, he’ll always have a low-maintenance sexual outlet.
Everyone wants to feel attractive and desirable, but too much contact too soon comes across as creepy rather than sweet.
Strike a balance between showing genuine interest and retaining mystery, and allow him to pursue you now and then.Expecting instant gratification is also a problem, according to Cooper.It is easy to obsess about an unanswered text, but it is better to assume the best and go about living your life.You send a text when you don’t want to talk to someone, but you want to let them know you’re thinking of them.And what can be more flattering than conveying, electronically, the idea that you DON’T want to talk to the woman you’re courting?I simply text back, happy and grateful to be in contact. And if it leads to another date full of witty banter, scintillating conversation, and sexy flirtation – all the better.