So, thanks to some advice from a few friends, I say it right in my profile: “Marry me for my dog.” That's working like a magical filter, scaring away the guys who wouldn't let my dog share the bed.
It's made me better at dating, even when I meet guys off the apps.
In an episode of Happier, I called in and asked for advice from Gretchen Rubin and her sister Elizabeth Craft.
There was a long line of women outside ABC studios, and many of them told me they considered The Bachelor a better way to date than Tinder.
At least on television, there are clear rules and one publicly adored (though not really this season) bachelor that you could fall in love with.
In a lot of ways, online dating can feel like more work than standing in line for hours in heels and a fresh blow out.
At least with The Bachelor, you can say you tried to put yourself out there.
Paste: In the aftermath of your breakup, did you listen to other podcasts, or did you put 'em all on mute and embrace the silence?
Silenzi: I am a lucky duck, and got dating advice from two of my favorite podcasters shortly after my breakup.If meeting someone for a long-term partnership is a goal, then, for me personally, I know that all my goals have taken some work to achieve. Getting a new job required a resume and a cover letter.And meeting someone to share your life with now requires an online dating profile.The dating podcast Why Oh Why is a magical hodgepodge of fact and fiction, of interviews and of introspection, of dudes in bars and dudes in radio studios, of pre- and post-inaugural dating advice. What followed was an honest conversation about parenting, pregnancy, patrilineality, and all the things in between.I'll admit that in the aftermath of my own breakup, I couldn't listen to it. I don't know if we would've gotten there without Silenzi's Why Oh Why as a point of departure. We are both podcast addicts looking for love, so I turned to ask her how to handle heartbreak.Instead, I'm giving my listeners the play by play, and becoming increasingly undatable and highly-specialized in my own grief along the way.