If he does not do what he needs to do away, he won't do it at home.
Think ours is "too little too late" but you need to do what feels "right for you!
Treat me as someone that he wants to take it to the "next level" with (i.e. I really want to feel like he adores me and I am the most important thing in the world to him (besides our kids). I want a brand new marriage WITH him since I have had so many personal revelations and so has he, but I am afraid I will be kicked in the stomach and disappointed once again if we ever even tried.
He did say he wants me to read some of what he has written because he can’t process and articulate correctly in person. He did say he feels he is accomplishing something with his therapy to uncover his reasons for lying. I shared some of my little personal growth moments from the last week.
He didn’t start an argument, he wasn’t sulky, and he didn’t act angry, but he also wasn’t engaging or interesting. He asked what I had been doing, told me he was doing “nothing” and shared that he has been writing and working his book. He was full of excuses about looking for a new job even though this one is apparently awful and pays shit (basically his assessment).
I have to realize things are messy and complicated right now.
Well things definitely have not been working out between me and my husband. He expressed to me that he does not want a divorce. I am not "in love" with him, but I love because of the time we shared and the 3 children that we have. " Would he be receptive to you telling him exactly what you expressed here as to what your needs/desires are for your marriage, or would you have to "play the game" more with him?
He said he was just thinking how good I look, but he didn’t want me to think he was being disingenuous or trying to weasel his way back in with me. The whole lackluster event ended at , only an hour and a half after it started, without us touching each other once.
He didn’t try to hold my hand, hug me, or even really get close at all.
Make sure you take this time to work on yourself as well.