And while you’re at it, indulge in your instincts to have a fulfilling and profitable career — without any guilt whatsoever!
— even though our culture tells you that stay-at-home mothers are better mothers.
After the show ends, he asks if I want to play pool. We play a few rounds and have a couple laughs but I don’t care to ask him many questions or engage fully because I know it wont go anywhere. Not to sound like my pretty little head got bigger, but it was slightly overwhelming! I didn’t know what to do, how to respond, what to say, how to filter all these men, from young to old. I also start talking to a guy who’s screen name is Annoyingly Long (AL). He proceeded to reassure me, it had nothing to do with his male anatomy when I asked him “What is up with the screen name? ” but only that the whole online dating setup/process was “annoyingly long” hmmm… Let me just say, I work in the city and live on the Eastside.
In fact, that is the big takeaway: Stop feeling guilty.
OKVet was texting me and I wanted to send his message to my friend. When FORWARDING a message from your Iphone 5s, you can highlight the msg and forward but it will stay on the original persons text… It was OKVet and only until AFTER hitting ‘Send’ I realized this! Something to the effect of “This message was from OKVet (I used his real name in the text to her), nice huh? I had a swift recovery with the Vet saying “oh I was sharing your sweet text and saying how nice you are” :::: eye roll::: He was polite and responded by saying he’s done the same… This woman is a planner and hates waiting till last minute! date tonight with the Vet and still no word from Match AL. ” Then I mentally kick myself, “Pay attention to don’t be such a snob and stop the analysis!
I finally fake cough, so I have somewhere to put my hands, apparently on my face is the spot, more like OVER my face from the “wtf” feeling. As I complete my transaction, I realize the 6month (RECOMMENDED) option is over $100!! This time it has to be a real legit profile with pictures of my FACE and all. I try to be funny and silly to show that side of me but also the serious side, to reflect I also have a brain. No idea, but I really don’t want to be your brown Bonnie.
What the hell should I do because this feels really uncomfortable?!! Apparently paying for a online dating site is quite the norm now, so screw it. After completing my payment, I realize I shouldn’t play the whole step one- trolling, step two- insert a little content, step three- possibly put up a picture, as I did on OKC. I proceed to take the next day or two to be very selective in the photos I place on the site, along with the content I am entering about myself.
this means, “I don’t really want to make the effort to think, if you have a place in mind already.” Thursday evening, I run home after work and get ready for date#2 with the Vet. I am not used to this since my ex would always wait to eat or even serve me (give the devil his due). As we are getting ready for the show to start, the Vet says “Hey, it was a long day and sorry if I smell like cat piss or something ” WHAT THE FUCK?! So, something may have sprayed you prior to your arrival and it wasn’t a bottle of $100 cologne? Since the Vet is a few minutes late (peeve #1), I rush to the bathroom, do a quick once over, hope my hair isn’t a complete fro at this point, damn rain!
low and behold, he’s wearing the SAME stupid puffer vest AGAIN, but this time with a red t-shirt underneath. I notice when the food comes he reaches over and starts eating right away. Also, why are you wearing the SAME ugly stupid puffer vest?! The show starts and headliner comes on and we laugh, we both are having fun … The Vet slowly reaches down to my left leg, more like upper thigh and begins to slowly rub/molest it..apparently trying to make a smooth move! I look around and don’t see the Vet, upon asking for a table, I am told there is a place for two but we have to be done by 8pm.Ultimately, failure to put their partner first was a sign these guys were not ready for a serious relationship, or at least not with those particular women, and that is totally normal.But it’s not cool to pay lip service to intentions of growing a serious, long-term relationship and from the onset demote your lover to second-rank — even before you message her on The most interesting thing about the essay was the resulting shitstorm of controversy which landed Waldman on a much-viewed Oprah episode during which a hostile audience nearly attacked her. Cliche as it may sound: You gotta put yourself first. You must make it a top priority to hang out with other adults — girlfriends, dates, relatives and friends. Yes, that essay is a decade old, but it warrants a revisit because parents — mothers most especially — are still expected to make our children the center of our worlds, and I do love [my daughter]. It is not normal to spend all your time with children, nor make your offspring your primary emotional support. I notice he’s quite slender/skinny, no real muscles at all. As I clicked on each profile to study them, I realized a lot of what they said was similar. I agreed, even though I was a initially put off by the name, but he wrote nicely and seemed normal… Match AL and I decide to meet that following Friday, and in the meantime, I have also booked my second date with OKVet for Thu. But I decided this is a whole new chapter in my newly single life and I need to make more of an effort to put myself out there.