She accepted this as a grand romantic gesture and soon moved in with the woman.
The relationship became emotionally toxic and took years to leave.
It can be difficult for lesbian women to identify their partner’s behavior as abusive, according to a study published in the Journal of Homosexuality. “[People in the LGBT community] work so hard for legitimacy,” Ault said.
The reasons for higher rates of violence in lesbian relationships are not clear.
Stories from lesbian women who survived intimate partner violence, however, provide insights into why lesbian relationships often become toxic, violent or emotionally abusive.
People who use terms such as “butch” do not necessarily identify as lesbian, further complicating the issue.
There are many queer women who identify as butch and some heterosexual women who use that label. Should we say “lesbian,” “lesbian women,” “gay women” or maybe something else?
Lesbian women face unique mental health issues — in addition to the ones all members of the LGBT community face — because they exist in a marginalized section of an already marginalized community.
Exploring the effects of discrimination and prejudice only scratches the surface of their mental health challenges.
“Feminist” is another label people pressure lesbians to consider.
There are historical and current conflicts between lesbian feminism, mainstream feminism and radical feminism.
Therapist Amber Ault — who works with lesbian clients, is gay herself and wrote a book about lesbian relationships — wrote about a lesbian woman whose partner violated her privacy during their first few weeks of dating.