Ask yourself, what is it about yourself that would inspire others to say “Fuck Yes” about you?
If the answer is not obvious, then you get to work.
The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet.
If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.
There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on—a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. Frustration with this grey area also drives many people to unnecessary manipulation, drama and game-playing.
For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous. This is where you get rules about making men pay for this many dates before you can become intimate.
Most dating advice exists to “solve” this grey area for people. Or how men need to transition from attraction phase to comfort phase by qualifying three times before they’re allowed to commence an escalation ladder.
Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point where some men and women spend more time analyzing behaviors than actually, you know, .
The second problem is people who never meet others who feel a “Fuck Yes” for them.
If all of the people you pursue give you a mild responses, or outright rejections, then it’s time to focus on improving yourself.
These things may seem clever and exciting to some people who are stuck or frustrated. If you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost. The entrepreneur Derek Sivers once wrote a blog post where he said, “If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!
Let me ask again: , what makes you think they’ll be happy to be with you later? ’ to something, then I say ‘no.'” It served him well in the business world and now I’d like to apply it to the dating world.
doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be falling in knee-wobbling love at first sight.