“There are no top ten tips on how to have the perfect relationship or date, each situation is different, each person is different, it may sound like a cliché, but it’s true.
One behaviour in one couple might be dysfunctional for them and for another; normal,” says Kofterou.
By Alexia Evripidou WITH VALENTINE’S Day fast approaching, many men and women in their 30s know from bitter personal experience that love and relationships are in trouble.
They complain of loneliness and their inability to find partners and each cite the opposite sex as the problem. Why are attractive, intelligent and willing 30 somethings struggling to find partners and turning to non Cypriots for solace?
And to the women to try and take it as a compliment if a guy approaches you, enjoy the attention and be responsive, smile; it takes a lot of courage for some one to approach.” Matchmaker suggests “go on a second date because the first time there’s nerves.
This first impressions last thing is just not right, it’s a cliché.
It’s a convoluted dynamic, which is very dysfunctional,” says psychologist Marianna Kofterou who specialises in marriage, relationships and family therapy. Even if they don’t like you, they’ll talk to you and won’t be rude,” says anonymous Mr X.
Many men, he says, are turning to the company of “German girls in Paphos, Russian girls in Limassol and English Cypriot girls in Larnaca” for dialogue and a confidence boost.
Meanwhile anonymous Miss Y points out “It’s very difficult to meet boys here, they’re reserved.
They make a move with difficulty and feel strange and embarrassed starting a conversation.
Most people didn’t choose their partners; it was ‘broxenia’, the system where relatives or friends chose a suitable partner for their loved ones.
According to anonymous matchmaker, it isn’t a bad idea.
This would give them clarity on who they are and what they really want and need from another on a less superficial level.