This is the online dating dilemma that faces MILLIONS of people each day.If I’m a 5’4” man, I know that it’s going to be hard to get a date if I tell the truth.They have stripped us of femininity, beauty, and sexiness. Source: Shutterstock Whether we identify as a plus-size woman, a fat woman, a chubby woman, or an overweight woman, we are women!
I swear to God, I have heard this complaint every single day for nearly a decade. So let’s play the game I play with my clients on the phone: : Then why would you expect the percentage to be any higher online?
If, by definition, 95% of men are wrong for you, it should be expected that many will be unemployed, uneducated, older and inappropriate. They’re allowed to take a crack at you, and you’re allowed to ignore them. Focus on what you can control – YOU – and let go of what you can’t – MEN.
Men are still largely going to prefer young, thin women.
Women are still going to prefer tall, successful men.
I have been online dating for about two months and it’s been so-so thus far. I’m 5’3″ and an hourglass-ish size 10, so while I’m not obese, I’m definitely not “athletic and toned.” I chose pictures that I think accurately show this.
Anyway, at first I listed myself as “A few pounds extra” thinking it was an honest description.
We aren’t a bizarre species and don’t want to be considered the subject of society’s narrow-minded exhibitionist views. If you don’t see that when you look at us, please don’t waste your time or our time trying to date us. I was concerned about weight restrictions on the rides and being comfortable in a bathing suit.
In spite of those worries, I had the time of my life.
The guys who have made contact have been people that I probably would not have dated normally, i.e., no steady job or just a little odd.
The good news, Nicci, is that all of the answers can be derived from the same exact technique – flipping things over to consider the other person’s point of view.
Be cognizant that there are some limitations plus-size women face.