Researchers from Queen Mary University of London wondered the same thing, so they analyzed previous research on attraction.
“Try to avoid clichés in your profile because, let’s face it, everyone wants someone who's loyal and we all like walking on the beach at sunset.
Ask your friend to keep an eye out for overused phrases.” Honey adds: “It's a good idea to emphasise your activities as people tend to be attractive to those who convey health and vitality.” It’s true – two of the most commonly used words in profiles on Ok Cupid are yoga and (slightly more intimidatingly) surfing.
“The profile should have a balance between comprehensive honesty and positive self-presentation because its validity will be put to test in future face-to-face interactions.” MORE READING: The United States of online dating profiles Everything you ever wanted to know about love, in 25 maps and charts PSA: Dating apps can give you viruses, too.
This is the big one, because depressing though it may be, your smiling face is the first thing on which people will judge you.
The researchers note that people are either ignored or pursued based on a quick look-over of a profile, so while a good photo matters, a good written description can really push the interest into action.
Don’t just blab about how great you (surely) are; go with a ratio of stuff about you to what you’re seeking.You look like a new user and people who might have missed you before are more likely to give you a second look.” A final thought from Honey: “Don't be tempted to airbrush your picture or present yourself looking too much better than you do in real life, and give group photos a miss to avoid confusion.” It might feel a little awkward, but dating expert Peter Spalton says it’s a great idea to ask a friend to cast a fresh eye over what you’ve written – and not just to check your spelling.“We live in a soundbite society so the first 30 words of your profile really count,” says Peter.They published their findings this week in the journal Evidence Based Medicine.Before we get to the findings, some caveats: these are generalities. And maybe these tips will land you more first dates, but it’s unclear whether these are the kinds of first dates you want.People also look to cues like spelling and grammatical errors (it’s “they’re” not “there,” pal).