I feel much the same way you did and am in a marriage that has no happy ending.I have tried nearly all I know to make things work but the church will forever be the roadblock to having peace and happiness in my married life.And if you believe in God and the teachings of the gospel, the best way to express that is to show compassion and kindness to everyone – in or out of the church.
William Johnson (admin) on Saturday, July 2nd, 2011 at am in Home Making Leader, Mormon Mother, Mormon Primary Presidency, Mormon Primary Teacher, Nursery, Relief Society Instructor, Uncategorized, Visiting Teaching Coordinator, Young Womens Advisor, Young Womens Teacher Congrats Heather for having the courage to leave both an unhappy marriage and the LDS Church.
We are coerced as human beings to comply with our tribe’s expectations and it looks as though you did a good job.
I do, on occasion attend services at a Unitarian Universalist congregation, but most of the time, I actually SPEND time with my family instead of at a “church”.
I’m sorry to sound disrespectful, but it sounds like you are a very faithful latter-day saint. People generally don’t come to sites like this unless they are seeking comfort when they are having a crisis of faith…. If this site gives Heather an outlet and lets her express herself and get out some of her sorrow and frustrations, all the better.
They are all God’s creatures and deserve respect and to be shown some human decency.
Tobin I appreciate you sharing your heart-felt story.You stayed active and believing in the LDS Church and stayed in an unhappy marriage just because it was ‘the right thing to do’.It wasn’t right for you; you recognized it and got out.That takes so much courage especially when you have 6 children.I imagine there were times when you said to yourself, “what the heck am I doing? I was a convert after high school (after much vehement opposition from my parents). Anyway, he went on his mission and I proceeded to marry the first guy I met in college. I knew my marriage was awful within months and was told by bishop after bishop that this was my trial in life.