In order to message people, you have to pay for a subscription.The pro here is that men who are paying are more likely to message back and make dates.Once you’ve set age and distance preferences, you start swiping.
Cons: Since you’re limited with your search parameters, you may sift through a lot of matches just to find one decent guy. Bumble Pros: What makes it unique is women have to pitch the first message. While there have been one or two saucy gentlemen I’ve come across, for the most part the men have wanted to go on dates pretty quickly.
From search alone you only know age and distance, and then it’s up to the men to fill in the blanks briefly with some profile description. This leaves you wondering things like: • How tall is he? (My experience with Tinder was that men could waste your precious single-mom minutes messaging you back and forth.) Bumble’s biggest plus: You can “take back” a negative, left swipe for free (unlike Tinder)!
Overall Websites allow you to upload more photos than apps, and you can narrow your search parameters. And be prepared to get hit up by creeps or people outside of your dating search terms. Will you have the same ease and time you had before you became Mommy?
Additional sites to try: • JDate • Plenty Of Fish (tremendous hit or miss with this site) • Zoosk (same as above—not successful for me, and cheesy!
(Caveat: Don’t use photos of you with your kids or of them alone, for their safety.
You never know.) Searching for matches is super simple.
Phone apps are quick to install and use but often come with glitches. Additionally, because men tend to simply look at the photos without reading the profile blurb, some were caught off-guard and turned off when they discovered I was a mom. Additional apps to try: • Hinge • JSwipe (the newest Jewish dating app) Match Pros: Match is obviously well-known, so chances are there will be a fair selection of guys (though I can’t promise they’ll be great).
Match lets you narrow your search terms, including whether your date has kids and his income range, which helps you filter.
The general profile page is easy to fill out, but there are a billion different questions you can expand on to determine if you’re a match or someone’s “enemy.” A lot of the questions can be good, but fair warning: Some here are racy.
I got a few decent dates from Ok Cupid with actual nice guys, but I also got a ton of messages from guys way too young for me looking for a MILF (barf), or who fake their profiles (adding kids) to scam me.
I know, I know, the logistics of dating as a solo parent who’s working to provide for her family can get tough.