I’ve heard things like: “When a guy’s relationship ends, he replaces her.
When a woman’s relationship ends, she mourns,” or, “He’s just hooking up with such-and-such to spite the ex-girlfriend,” or “Guys just don’t care” and other nonsense.
So as an easy way to “numb out” from what might seem like unending suffering, they jump into another relationship so they can continue feeding their sense of well-being.
A guy once told me that, “A man is devastated at the end of a relationship to the extent to which he sold himself out.” What does it mean for a guy to sell himself out (in the context of a relationship)?
Every guy has a set of core values for who he is, what he stands for, and what he really wants out of life.
To wrap up this point: Most people can’t recognize when they believe something impossible, nor can they see the false belief as the source for all of the suffering…
All they experience is the continuous suffering and they want the suffering to end.
Sometimes in a relationship, a guy will really, really love a girl and may start to compromise these core values.
Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits.
Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what guys generally go through when they breakup.
It came down to be too much to put into the article I was writing, so we decided that I should throw it all into an installment of “Decoding Male Behavior.” To start, I wanted to write this article to dispel some of the misconceptions I’ve heard in regards to men and breakups.
MORE: 15 Undeniable Signs You Aren’t Over Your Ex It seems innocent enough, but over time the guy begins to starve for whatever it was he got from the things he gave up.