I dunno about that, but here’s some stuff I’ve noticed. READ MORE: Things You Only Know If You're A Black Girl On Tinder A first date will ask you where you are from because they’re not allowed to talk about ethnicity. ’ ‘I grew up in Yorkshire’ ‘No but where were you born? ’ ‘My mum’s from Manchester’ Some people fetishise non-white bodies. It is never okay for a guy to compliment me on my ‘black ass’ the first time he sees me naked. They’re being racist sexist fuckwits, which is the very worst type of sexist fuckwit.
Tinder offers a soul-destroying glimpse into the worst and most racist of humanity. READ MORE: Finally Someone's Created A Nude Bra That Actually Works For Black Women Some white guys have their own stupid ideas about race and will want to share them with you.
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So what’s it like to date white guys when you’re not white? But there’s some cool words coming out too, you know. And seriously, whoever came up with the term ‘blowjob lips’?
Well, it’s exciting and intense and awkward-in-a-good-way for the first few months, and then it gets weird and annoying and you split up and then you see them on a date with someone else a month later and you die inside and have to drink all the wine to get over it. You want stuff that’s exclusive to the whole brown girl/white boy scenario? I have no idea whether that’s the African thing or just because I eat a lot of lasagne but it doesn’t matter. What a lot of people don’t realise is that when they start talking like that about lips, they’re not just being sexist fuckwits.
Here’s how Stephanie fared in one week compared to me.
Stephanie’s in-mail messages were generally crafted better.
Adam informed me that blackface wasn’t actually offensive, it was just people pretending to be offended because they love a good argument. Probably best just to skirt around it and be vague ('she’s average height with brown curly hair'). If your boyf is not a total douchebag, it will have occurred to him that he has a massive economic and social advantage over most of the rest of the world. It’s kind of the opposite of when you’re out with a brown friend and everyone thinks you’re related. All of this makes it sound like race defines my dating experiences, which is obviously not true at all.
Like, err yeah, thanks Adam for that nugget of ignorance, you absolute bell-end. Say you arrive at a restaurant separately and he describes you to the maître d' to see if you’ve been seated already. You’ll end up sitting at opposite ends of the restaurant but at least no one’s been racist. Check him with all his white male privilege, right? Going out with white boys is just as frustrating and fun as dating black guys or white girls or black girls.
It seems like men are happy to look at a Black woman but won’t initiate flirting.
On the flipside, men are spurred into action when presented with a non-Black face.
(Crown), confirmed in hard facts what many heterosexual, single Black women already suspected about the online dating game: the odds are stacked, and not in our favor.
On the Ok Trends blog, Rudder reports, “82% of non-Black men on Ok Cupid show some bias against Black women.” Rudder goes on to say in his book that this means, “being Black basically costs you about three-quarters of a star [out of five] in your rating, even if you’re at the top.” Rudder’s findings certainly back the lackluster experience that I’ve endured on online dating sites, but even despite the cold hard data, I couldn’t help but wonder if other races of women really get more love.
READ MORE: Things You Only Know If Your Boyfriend Is Black And You're Not and the most famous black pop star in the world was referred to in mainstream media as the "Scary” one.